Dealing With A Natural 4c Hair Baby/Toddler

  

It can be a bit challenging dealing with a tiny person who does not want to and does not care about hair. Getting them to sit still is a battle. It takes a lot of patience! Sometimes we have two hairstyles or half a hairstyle. 

Don't force them. Don't make her/him hate their hair or getting their hair done. If she gets too fussy and clearly doesn't want to sit still, just let them go. Try doing simple hairstyles that don't take too long. Or do their hair whilst they are sleeping. My toddler won’t sit still, sleeping doesn’t help, she turns over or wakes up, TV doesn’t help... Some kids are more patient and just sit through it...

To deep condition her hair I:

Monday	-	wash and section, braids or hair bands.
Tuesday morning	-	use spray bottle to get her hair wet and I put in the conditioner
Tuesday mid-morning	-	I wash her hair and then use the LOC/”LCO” method.

Make sure their hair is damp when you handle it. Try to finger detangle and minimise comb usage.

I use the same products on my hair I use on hers/theirs. She is two now.

Threading On Natural 4c Hair

Threading is a good and effective protective style. I put in threading that I wear out as an everyday style, like 2-3 weeks+. Just make sure that your hair is in good shape before you thread it. I use the loc method to get and seal in as much moisture as possible into my hair. I use the LCO method, but not in the correct order.
LOC – “LCO”:
Liquid	-	Water. Drench your hair.
Cream	-	I use a leave in conditioner.
Oil	-	I use either, coconut oil, olive oil or shea butter.
I section my hair and let it air dry in 4+ braids I use thread/wool I get from the super market for a dollar. The wool/thread used to knit. For extra protection you can oil the wool a bit so it does not draw the moisture from your hair. Allso becareful how you knot the ends.
Here are some pics of the threading I do in my hair. Some say they look like locks to them? Maybe when they reach the two week mark and I’ve probably wet them by then.

Here are a few pics of my threaded hair:

Post Natal Stretch Marks

I was rather lazy during and after my pregnancy, so I ended up with massive stretch marks. My stomach was a flappy piece of skin that hung over and was wrinkly and very black/hyperpigmented? I was actually psyching myself to accept the marks and forget about them...

But eventually decided to at least try to fight them:

I mixed the olive oil and shea butter in a container using a whisk from an old long dead hand mixer.

I did not use any heat.
Put in the olive oil a very small amount at a time so you can control the consistency of the mixture.

I use this on my face and body, but mainly on my stomach, sides and lower back.

I use it on my new baby and todler. On their skin and hair.

As I don't usually use the mixture on my whole body on the reset of me I use the Nivea Shea butter lotion.

Oh and it leaves you shinny so be careful when putting it on your face and going out,

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Okra On Dry 4c Hair

I tried okra out as a conditioner. You can use it to deep condition then wash it out or use it as a leave in conditioner or as a hair gel. I think it would work well as a daily moisturizer.

One of my main problems with my hair is that it cannot retain moisture at all. Even if I condition with a store bought conditioner it feels crunchy and dry even after oiling. But days after having washed out the okra and oiling it is  still moisturised and doesn't feel crunchy and a lot of it isn't breaking off.

I sliced the okra into rings covered it with water and boiled it. I strained it and put the "slime" in my hair. I didn't mix the okra with anything else. I put on plastic shower cap and a beanie on top. Spent a few hours then removed the shower cap and beanie. I let my hair air dry. I washed out the okra after two days. Days later it still feels good.

There was no smell. My hair wasn't sticky or tacky or flaky after the okra dried.

I hope to do the okra once a week.

 wikipedia - OKRA

Birth Experience

I have to say that the people around you can make or ruin your birth experience. Unfortunately we all cant deliver our own babies so at such a vulnerable time we are at the mercy of others...

I understand the need for efficiency and what not for nurses and doctors but please treat these ladies better.

1st birth was a wonderful experience. Nurses were wonderful, I was nervous and terrified and I must have been very annoying but they were wonderful - private care, government hospital.

2nd birth experience was horrible.. The midwives and other nurses were needlessly rude and cold. Just a callus rough attitude. Competent but just well...horrid. A little kindness goes a long way to relieving the trauma of the whole experience - government poly clinic.

I know these nurses are grossly underpaid and overworked. But I'd expect women, who have mothers, sisters, daughters... who have had and will have children, to not go out of their way but to at least be nice. Fake it if you have to. No need to make the experience terrible for no good reason?

Not Enough Growth?

I haven't had a lot of growth. Mainly because I haven't been treating it as I should. I have seen some growth but would probably see more if I took proper care of it.

14 January 2015

Have a kid turning 2 in a little bit. Plus a two month old!
So don't know when I'll have the time.

Episiotomy & Tearing

With my first bun episiotomy, second bun tearing. These are methods I used to help me heal, there are plenty more out there but this is what I did:

- Soaking in a tub of warm water and salt, a cup full of ordinary coarse salt - helped with healing and the warmth was  great for my aching and strained muscles.

- If bleeding is mild, put a towel underneath you open your legs and let your stitches air dry. Exposure to some air will also help them heal.

- When using the loo to pee, lean forward a bit.

- Pat dry, don't wipe.

- Don't let yourself get constipated, I think I was so afraid to poop I ended up constipated.

- Put a bit of Vaseline on the skin around the stitches, not on the stitches. The Vaseline helps to soothe and lubricate the skin, I felt the skin was dry and felt pulled.

- Change your pad regularly, even if blood flow is very low.

- Use a sudo cream or something antiseptic on the stitches if desired or necessary.

- REST. Though not always possible but try as much as you can.

- Get a round shaped cushion with a hollow centre. To relieve pressure when sitting.

- Ice to cool down the area.

- Painkillers, take the ones recommended by your doctor or midwife.

And fingers crossed for a quick recovery.